Children’s Wishes (or “Views”) in Family Law matters

As family law practitioners we deal with a large number of matters which center around care arrangements for children. In those matters, one of the questions most often asked by a parent is ‘When do the wishes of the children become relevant?’ Our response, as is usually the case in family law matters, is ‘it depends’.

If the child is old enough to express themselves with regards to their care arrangements, then it is obviously important that their wishes (or ‘views’ as they are defined in the Family Law Act 1975) be considered when determining their care arrangements.

The law recognises that children should have a voice in family law matters. However a number of factors need to be taken into account when seeking to rely on the views of children. How those factors are taken into account is dictated by the Family Law Act and supporting case law.

The Law

The Family Law Act states that there are two primary considerations which the Court must take into account when making parenting orders:

  • The benefit to the child of having a meaningful relationship with both of the child’s parents; and
  • The need to protect the child from physical or psychological harm from being subjected to, or exposed to, abuse, neglect or family violence.
  • Under the law, protecting children from harm is given greater weight.
  • Following on from the primary considerations, are additional considerations which may be addressed by the Court when deciding what arrangements might be in the best interests of an individual child, the first of which is:
  • Any views expressed by the child and any factors (such as the child’s maturity or level of understanding) that the court thinks are relevant to the weight it should give to the child’s views.

This means that, under the Family Law Act the Court should take into account the views expressed by any child of the proceedings but the court must also consider a number of other factors before giving any weight to the views of the children. Some of those factors include:

  • The age of the child. So for example, the weight attributed to the views of a young child would be treated differently to the weight to be attributed to the views of an older child or adolescent (although there is no set age).
  • The emotional or intellectual maturity of the child. For example, the Court may be dealing with a very mature 8 year old or a very immature 11 year old.
  • The strength of the child’s views and whether that can be supported by any unilateral acts of the child such as running away from the other parent, emotional displays, refusals to spend time etc.;
  • Whether there is a rational base for the child’s views;
  • Whether the view of the child appears wholly or partly due to manipulation by a parent or other family member.

Children are not parties to the proceedings and will not be called on to give evidence, even if they are at an age at which they are able to express themselves and articulate their feelings. Further, the court is very critical of parents or family members who unnecessarily involve children in determining their own care arrangements.

So, when a child is expressing strong wishes to their parents about their care arrangements, how is that evidence presented in the proceedings?

The Evidence

The most effective way of presenting evidence of children’s views is to involve a child expert or counsellor. If your matter has progressed to Court, a judge will usually order this through a Child Inclusive Conference or a Family Report run by a family consultant or other Expert. If your matter has not progressed to Court, there are still options to rely on a qualified third party to present the views of the child.

For example, it is common in our Collaborative practice to involve a child psychologist who is able to meet with the child and present recommendations to the parents for their consideration in determining what arrangements might be best for their child.

The importance of the involvement of the third party, is to present the court or parties with unbiased evidence in relation to the wishes of the child. Further to that, the child psychologist or family consultant is also able to determine what weight, if any should be given to the views of the child as they are trained to do, for example, they can pick up on whether there has been any coaching or manipulation of the child.

Of course, when it comes to parenting matters, the preferred approach and most successful, is for parents to reach agreement between themselves. It has been demonstrated time and again in parenting matters, that children, especially young children, respond better when arrangements are put in place for them and they feel no obligation to ‘choose’ where they live and who they spend time with.

If you are currently negotiating care arrangements for your children and consider their wishes or views are not being heard or that they should/should not be taken into account, you should contact us for advice.


Tash Priestly is a lawyer specialising in Family Law at Farrar Gesini Dunn.