Separation is one of the most significant decisions a person can make. It’s emotional, complex, and often overwhelming. Whether you’re at the early stages or more seriously contemplating separation, taking careful, considered and practical steps early can make a meaningful difference, both legally and personally.
Here are 3 things you should do when considering separation.
1. Have a clear understanding of your finances
One of the most common sources of stress during separation is financial uncertainty. Understanding your financial position early puts you in a much stronger position.
Start by gathering information such as:
- Bank accounts and credit cards
- Property and mortgages
- Superannuation
- Investments and business interests
- Debts and liabilities
Take copies of important documents where possible.
2. Seek legal advice early
Many people wait too long before reaching out for legal advice, or rely on advice from friends or online sources that don’t reflect their specific situation.
Getting early legal advice is crucial in helping you:
- Understand your rights and entitlements
- Avoid common mistakes (such as informal agreements that don’t hold up)
- Learn about timelines and legal processes
- Develop a legal strategy tailored to your circumstances, to achieve your best outcome
Seeing a lawyer doesn’t mean it has to get nasty. It simply gives you clarity and control over your options, so you can be guided and make the best decision for you and your family.
3. Lean on your support network
Separation affects more than just your living or financial arrangements. It can impact your mental wellbeing, family relationships, and overall sense of stability and security.
You don’t have to navigate this alone. Having the right support around you can make the process far more manageable and less isolating.
Your support network could include:
- Trusted friends or family
- A counsellor or psychologist
- Financial advisors or accountants
- Legal advisors
Separation is never easy, but taking proactive, informed steps early can make a big difference to your experience and the outcome. By having a clear understanding of your finances, seeking legal advice and leaning on support, you place yourself in the best possible position.
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Article By: Angela Li
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Angela has been a family lawyer since 2014. She offers direct and honest, yet caring and compassionate legal advice. She is thorough and considered in her approach and assists clients in an efficient, pragmatic and solutions-focussed manner. Angela is experienced in all areas of family law but really shines when dealing with complicated financial matters and complex parenting matters.