“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”― Benjamin Franklin
New Year, New Resolution!
We are all familiar with New Year Resolutions. They mark the end of the year that has been and are a good opportunity to reflect and evaluate. They also time stamp the start of something new and prompt us to identify what is important to us in life and what we wish to focus on in the coming year.
New Year resolutions mindfully articulate:
Purpose
Intention
Direction
They prompt:
Accountability
Goal Setting
Formulating an action plan
Working daily on the plan
Possible outcomes can include:
Increased happiness and wellbeing
Closer relationships
Alignment to a preferred life
What are Separated Co-parenting Resolutions?
Resolutions are also powerful in separated families. In a lot of ways, they mirror the above. Coparenting resolutions should focus on:
the best interests of children;
the future and;
finding solutions (or pathways to solutions).
In the same way one identifies personal resolutions for the year, a separated parent can set out parenting resolutions and co-parenting resolutions. No goal is too small as each one works towards a preferred life.
Ask yourself what your goals are:
For your relationship with your kids?
For your relationship with your co-parent?
As a separated parent (irrespective of the other parent)?
What steps do you need to take to achieve these goals?
Who can assist you?
The team at FGD have contributed numerous articles to better assist separated parents find resolutions leading up to, during and after the New Year period. These articles may assist you with planning and setting some goals for the coming year.
Kristal has 18 years’ experience working with of children and families who have separated and are at the interface of Family Law. She is informed by strengths based and solutions focussed practices to challenge and empower clients to want better and do better in order to move towards their preferred life.
